My best friend is dating my cousin
A few months later, I got a message saying, "I miss you Britt, and it's killing me." I texted back, full of pride and stubbornness and said, "You broke up with me, John. Leave me alone." Then, bothered by my words, John replied and said "I only broke up with you to see if you really wanted me. I shouldn't have left you and I'm sorry I did but if I didn't care, I wouldn't still be here." Then, with the stupidity that comes with "love," I forgave him and he and I began talking again. But at the time, I still had a boyfriend so of course I didn't say it back. The past few weeks, I noticed he'd been liking some of my cousin's pictures. Comments on photos and posts, "liking" a picture turned into "loving" a picture. We were team mates on the track and field team at our high school and gradually, we started talking more and more during practices and meets. We dated for about a year and a half before he made the decision to break up with me. But, I let him be and gave him the space he asked for. He started flirting with other people more openly, and I started dating someone new. I still love you." I was very surprised and boy did it bring back a lot of memories and feelings. We all hung out at the carnival together a few times, and he's parked his truck at her house so that he could leave it there while he rode with one of his friends to come visit me. But as weeks passed, I started to notice them talking on social media more. That’s not to criticise your reaction or suggest it’s unreasonable for you to feel this way.Just to encourage you to think about why this fills you with dread rather than it being a cause for celebration?Petra studies sex and relationships and is The Telegraph’s agony aunt. Email your sex and relationships queries to: [email protected] Petra cannot offer individual responses or answer every single question.Please note that by submitting your question to Petra, you are giving your permission for her to use your question as the basis of her next column, published online at Wonder Women.Here are two people you care about who have found happiness.If they stay together this may strengthen the relationship you all have.
How am I supposed to respond when my family gets re-introduced to him, then looks at me puzzled? If you were once close with a family member and you decide it's okay to date their ex, without any explanation or apology, might I add, you're wrong. I've learned the hard way that both John and my cousin are only looking out for their best interest.Ask yourself if they were describing the same relationship but with different people would you still be feeling anxious or using words like ‘disgust’?Doing this may help you identify what anxieties you have that are understandable but probably aren’t going to become an issue, and ones where you feel you do need to say or do something – although not necessarily with them.Frame this in a context of being happy for them but having some worries about how you feel.It may be they’re so loved up they’ve not thought about how their relationship impacts on others, or perhaps have worries like you do so a conversation about it may reassure you all.